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Women who love to watch porn ? New
book !
A new book, One For The Girls!, by Clarissa Smith, senior lecturer
in media and cultural studies at the University of Sunderland,
claims that not all women are repelled by porn.In fact, it's the
opposite; women, says Smith, are new consumers. 'In the past, we had
access issues but today there are many more women-friendly sex shops
that cater to all tastes,' she says. 'Before, we would never go to
the newsagent and reach for the top shelf.'
Women who love to watch porn ? Porn once meant a magazine under a
mattress or videos passed between schoolboys. Now, all you need is a
computer and a credit card to view your ultimate fantasy in seconds.
As a result, increasing numbers of men admit they are compulsive
users – and that their girlfriends are disgusted with their
addiction. Of course, Smith also acknowledges that today's women are
a different breed: 'We have higher expectations of what we're
entitled to and know that an orgasm is our right; we don't just have
sex with our husband to keep him happy. We have sexual feelings and
want to find means of having them.' But are women really sitting at
home watching porn on their laptops and TVs? According to analysts
Nielsen NetRatings, they are. A 2006 survey found the number of
women downloading Internet porn had soared to 1.4million. A quick
search on Google reveals numerous porn sites aimed at women. One
offers images of 'hot men', horoscopes and romantic stories. Hardly
hardcore. But scroll down the page and you'll find a huge photo
gallery of naked – and aroused – men.
Julia, 31, from East London, admits she has recently started viewing
porn: 'I bought some DVDs to watch with my boyfriend but I have
started to watch them on my own.
I only do it if my flatmate is out; I'd be really embarrassed if she
knew what was going on in my bedroom.
To me, they're simply a visual aid and no reflection of my sex life
or my relationship.'
In Smith's book, which focuses on an erotic magazine, For Women, one
woman, Jane, finds porn helps get her in the mood for her weekend:
'I often use the magazine as a turn-on for masturbation or as a
prelude for sex. Sometimes, before going out for an evening, I'll
look through some mags until I become excited, which can often leave
me sexually aroused for hours.
If my date does not go as planned, I still have them when I get
home.'
Kelly, 26, from Brighton, also needs help to get in the mood:
'Most men can get an erection pretty quickly while women prefer to
be seduced, romanced and, if we're lucky, even get a bit of
foreplay. A quickie is good every now and again but I like to be
turned on first. Porn sometimes helps.'
Anna Span, 35, is a porn director from London and has films such as
Hoxton Honey and Eat Me/Keep Me under her belt.
She says that women have always had an interest in porn: 'The fact
that we were so enraged about it in the first place was indicative
of a certain desire for it.
I was anti-porn but then realised my anger was jealousy.
Men's sexuality was being catered for and ours wasn't.'
But regardless of desire, Span says women still expect a certain
quality: 'My films are different because they feature good-looking
men and I spend a lot of time auditioning for them. I use good
styling and good casting. Some of the films are like soap operas
because women like to hear about other people's lives.
I mix fantasy with reality and don't market my films by body type,
such as “big tits”, simply because women are less likely to think
like that.'
So we know what we like and don't like but is society ready for us?
Probably not, says Smith: 'Women who admit to enjoying porn do feel
guilty about enjoying sex without the love and romance and do worry
that they're sluts.
They think they shouldn't be enjoying it so, on that basis, we still
have a long way to go.' In the meantime, there's no harm in looking…
Anna Span: www.easyote.co.uk One For The Girls! The Pleasures And
Practices Of Reading Women's Porn by Clarissa Smith (Intellect,
£29.95)
Bron/Source : Lisa Scott 13/06/2007
http://www.metro.co.uk/